Your Groom Speech Should Reflect Your Personality - Tips and Ideas on How To Produce Great Groom Speeches

Along with all your groom’s duties, you still have to write your groom speech. Most grooms find their speeches one of the hardest to write because they want it to be perfect. And so does your bride. So hold off on the drinks until after you say your speech at the wedding reception. So, how do you write the perfect groom speech?

Good question and here are a few tips to help you write that perfect groom speech.

First, the only place you can find a "perfect" speech is within your own heart – sentimental, I know but true. A lot of men are under the misconception that good groom speeches must be full of flowery language, clever references and gut busting anecdotes. Let me rid you of these ideas.
Your speech should come from your feelings and memories with a sense of humor added. Your speech isn’t open mic night at the local pub and using a generic script full of popular married jokes is just in bad taste. So that said, how do you write the perfect wedding speech?

You Start With Preparation for your Groom Speech

Groom Speech InformationTake some time to think about what you want to say in your speech. Do some brainstorming and do it with your bride-to-be. After all, if you both agree, you’ll be speaking for both of you. She may want to have a speech of her own. If that’s the case then you can easily share the list of people to thank. You also might want to think about what marriage means to you.

You'll most likely come up with items like fidelity, family, commitment, loyalty, and love. These are the kinds of ideas that you can center your speech around. As the groom, you also have some groom duties to take care of.

As the groom, you’re the guest of honor and it’s your duty to thanks the guest for being there, for those who helped with the wedding plans, the best man, groomsmen, the maid of honor and bride’s maids, your parents and the parents and family of your bride. That’s a lot of thanks but it can be split between you and your new bride.

Your groom’s speech can cover anyone you want to give special attention to and thanks for helping. All weddings and families are different so it depends on your circumstances on what to add to your speech.

The Length of Groom Speeches

Many people who give speeches think they have to talk for certain number of minutes for their speech to be good. However, that’s not the case. Your speech will be perfect if you cover everything you want to cover. It doesn’t matter if it’s 2 minutes or 20 minutes as long as it comes from your heart, it will be perfect.

And your guest will thank you for keeping it on the short side. Five minutes is more than long enough to say what you have to say AND for your guests! Five minutes is a long time to listen to someone talk. So as long as you’re reasonably prepared, don’t mumble and stumble through your groom speech, your guests will be eternally grateful if you keep it on the short side. Most listeners are forgiving of speeches because they are there to share the tender moment of the day, not to listen to an Oscar acceptance speech.

As long as your groom speech is given warmly, sincerely, and briefly, they will be as happy as you are.


The Order of Groom Speeches

You’ve done the brainstorming, you share some of the thanks with your bride, you have a list of things you want to say, and so, what order do you say them? That’s easy. Every wedding is different but the first things you say are to the most important people to you. Here’s a list of the most popular topics and the order they are given.


Start your Groom Speech with thanks


Use a sentence or two to express your thanks to the important people you’re honoring. You can start with a quote, saying or poem or just go right into your speech. Be sure to mention what you’ve learned from that person and don’t forget to say his or her name! Continue with others that you want to give special attention to keeping to one or two sentences per person.


What marriage means to you

The second part of your speech should cover what marriage to your bride means to you and what your hopes for the marriage are. Also, cover anyone who has given you any special meaning to your life. Like your parents, uncles or aunts or even your best man.


Ending your Groom Speech with a toast

End your speech with a one-sentence toast. Depending on your life you can toast the guests, such as “May you always be as happy as I am today”, your parents, such as “To my mother and father, who showed me what marriage is like”. You can toast your bride’s parents, your brothers and sisters or your bride. If you try to toast everyone, you’ll be there half the night so keep the toast to one or two sentences.


It’s not mandatory to talk about everyone who had a hand in your marriage plans; you can thank them individually during the wedding reception. Nor is it necessary to make your short stories gut busters or tear-jerker, just talk from your heart. You’ll be surprised at how moving it can be. Don’t forget to practice your groom speech. It will make it more natural sounding the more you practice.Finally, I would like to introduce to an excellent groom speech resource. If you want a quick solution to whatever problem you think you have in writing or delivering your groom's speech - try this complete groom speech guidance site.

The Making of A Successful Groom Speech

Groom Speech SketchIt’s your wedding day. The wedding ceremony is over and it was flawless. Everything went fine. Now you are at the wedding reception and right now waiting for your turn to give your groom speech. The father of the bride is in the last phase his speech and you have to be there in a few minutes. You obviously would like your speech to be flawless again. You know that if you can deliver the speech in style and with confidence there would be wide spread appreciation but if you fail, I don’t want to scare you, it would be nothing less than a disaster.

The clandestine of lettering a first-rate groom speech is in the fact that how you plan and prepare for it. But it’s always easier said than done as a groom also have the whole wedding to plan. It’s your responsibility to organize the service and the reception, select those all important people who contribute to make a wedding successful, organize a wonderful honeymoon … so on and so forth.

Regardless of having to take care of such huge responsibilities it is essential that you keep some time aside to prepare for your speech. A groom speech requires that you do some research before you actually put pen on paper and then practice it several times until you have the confidence that it’s the groom speech you always wanted to give on your wedding day.

By the way, do remember that you are giving the groom speech on behalf of your newly married wife also. So, it would be better to say “my wife and I” whenever and wherever it applies. It’s a wonderful traditional groom speech etiquette that you need to follow.

In your speech you need to personally thank the both your and the bride’s parents and everybody who contributed towards the wedding arrangements. Traditionally you are also expected to extend your tanks as well as present gifts to the best man, the groomsmen, the bridesmaids and others in the bridal party. It’s needless to say that no groom speech is complete without welcoming and thanking the guests who joined you at the wedding reception not just to give company but also o wish the two of you a very successful marriage.

There are several other stuffs you need to mention in your groom speech like appreciating the father of the bride’s speech and assuring him and your mother-in-law that you will take good care of their daughter … and wrapping up your speech with a wonderful wedding toast.

You can scroll down and read the posts already published about groom speeches to get the complete idea.


Groom Toasts - Who Do You Toast in your Groom Speech

The wedding ceremony is over and your wedding vow was quite good, thankfully. Now it's time to get ready for the wedding reception. And now you want your groom speech to be even better. Of course there are other responsibilities and duties that a groom has to take care of. But it's the groom's speech which you know you have deliver perfectly since you are not an affluent public speaker and prepared for it as much as you can. You are confident but overly excited. Only a couple of hours left before the wedding reception is going to take place. Everything seems to be in perfect order but are you really ready with your groom speech? I hope you are. However, let me remind you of a few useful tips on groom speech or toast you need to remember at this last moment.

As already discussed several times groom speeches are generally short and formal in character. You have to thank a lot of people you can have the names in a card and read from it. But the best way to do is simply look around the reception hall and thank the people you think you need to thank. Begin with the bride's family. Then thank all the guests for coming and for their gifts. Thank your parents for everything, the best man and the other groomsmen for their support and the bridesmaid for helping the bride. OK, now look around . . . there's Cousin Paul who helped you to rent this wonderful place … thank him and greet his wife. And there's Uncle Joe and Aunt Kay who came all the way from Arizona just to be present at the wedding reception . . . they deserve huge thanks. I think you got the idea. It's not difficult, is it?

Once you are done with the "thank you's" it's time to praise your bride as well as the bridesmaids or maid of honors. There are quite a lot of posts in this blog on how to do that in style, so I won't be doing that again now. Instead I will say a few words about groom toasts with which you would want to wrap up your groom speech.

Traditionally, the groom toasts the maid or matron of honor, and also other persons from the bride's family including the parents of the bride but nowadays several families don't hesitate to come up with innovative ideas. So, you as the groom you can propose a toast to the bridesmaid also. In fact, for many families it's a tradition to toast the bridesmaid. I like the idea. By the way, you need not recite a verse (well, you can if you like but it's not mandatory) while proposing the toasts. "Ladies and Gentlemen, please raise your glasses and join me in a toast . . ." is fine.

Hopefully, this post will make you more confident and help you give a wonderful groom speech and propose those groom toasts in a classy manner.

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